Friday, 20 July 2012

TIME DILATION: TWO MONTHS OF MY LIFE

I will not start with a definition of time: this is a very difficult task in the first place, and secondly, this is not a scientific paper.
It’s just a trial to share, mainly with Tania (my wife), a recent experience of mine regarding the changing of my perception of time during 2 months interval when I remained alone (Tania went to Romania)

When and for how long I didn’t care

At the beginning of my solitude I didn’t notice any difference between my perception of time before and after Tania’s departure. Even if I was aware of my loneness, subconsciously, Tania was still present in the next room and the time, from my perspective, flows with the same “speed”. Except that now nobody was there to really regulate my daily activities according to a mutual agreed schedule. The schedule was entirely mine. The bad thing with this schedule was that it doesn’t provide any “sharing moments”. Like always, I could and I wanted to share a lot, but with whom?
 The sharing moments were like ticks of a clock, they assured a normal time “speed”.

Time starts dilating …

The lack of “sharing moments “, I guess, added up and after no more than 2 weeks, made me feel like the time is flowing slowly, dilating.
Meanwhile a few events occurred:
  • I quit smoking
  • The tasty Tania food (in the fridge) terminated
These made me uncomfortable and contributed to augment the dilation of time in my mind.

It’s well known that people perceive the time differently depending on many factors. One, that I experienced myself, is the ageing which apparently speeds up the time flow; you feel that the distance in time between 2 successive events is very short. *)

So, in normal/regular circumstances – i.e. my wife being near me – the time is contracting for me, because I’m 70, while in uncommon circumstances – my wife is away – my time is dilating.

How is better?
 Now, based on this reasoning, I’m wondering what is better for me – time contracting or time dilating, i.e., wife near me or wife away.

Time contracting means stress and rush, because you will not have enough time to do what you have in mind…In this scenario, the expression “take your time” is meaningless.
 On the contrary, when time is dilating you have all the time in the world to do things, but finally you can get bored to …live.
The verdict:  keeping wife near me is the best scenario, even if, sooner or later, my time is going asymptotically or abruptly to zero.  

Note1:
A young lady, friend of mine, reading this story asked me:  this "best scenario" is the best for Tania too??
Note2:
As a bonus for whom have read this post  I offer them this video clip:



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